One of the most common questions when it comes to being on a worship team is "how do I deal with conflict?" Ideally, there wouldn't be any conflict to deal with - I mean we're Christians after all right? The truth is that the church is made up of broken unperfect people who don't always get along. Conflict - big or small - is inevitable. So what can you do?
Here are 3 tips for handling conflict on your worship team:
1 | Communication is essential
I constantly get DM's from people telling me that there is conflict on their team. Their worship pastor isn't doing what they're supposed to be doing. They think they're being treated unfairly. Two of their vocalists are fighting over who gets to sing lead. No matter what the specific problem is, I always ask the same question: "Have you talked to them about it yet?"
Communication is ESSENTIAL in any instance of conflict. But, what happens most of the time, is that we keep these emotions, thoughts, and feelings inside of our own head and never express them to the offending party. And that is actually unfair to the person we're having the conflict with because we've never communicated to them what they're doing wrong. Therefore, they never know what they need to fix!
2 | Pray for the person you are in conflict with
If you are currently in conflict with someone on your team, how sincerely have you prayed for them? As Christians, we know that prayer changes THINGS but most importantly it changes US. Start praying for the person you aren't getting along with and you will quickly realize how hard it is to be mad at someone you're sincerely praying for.
3 | Take care of what you're responsible for
As much as we don't like to admit it, the problem is not always the other person's fault. Take an objective look at the situation and make sure there isn't something you should be doing in order to fix the problem. Most of these solutions can be ironed out through proper communication (see tip 1). For example, that person who is never prepared for rehearsal might need more resources from YOU to prepare appropriately. Take care of what you're responsible for before you start blaming other people.
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